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Dealing with a toxic family member can be incredibly challenging, but it’s important to remember that you’re not alone in this struggle. This article highlights common signs of toxic relationships and provides coping strategies when dealing with toxicity.

Coping With Toxicity

Having a toxic family member can be one of the most challenging experiences to face. While it’s not uncommon for people to have at least one family member who seems to make their life miserable, it is important to know that you’re not alone in this struggle, let us dive deeper into the signs of toxic relationships.

What are the signs of a toxic personality?

While toxic family members come in many different shapes there are some common signs. These include:

  • Constant criticism: They criticise everything you do, no matter how big or small, and make you feel like you can’t do anything right.
  • Controlling behaviour: They try to control every aspect of your life, including your thoughts, feelings and actions.
  • Gaslighting: They manipulate and distort reality to make you doubt your own perceptions of the situation.
  • Blaming: They blame you for their problems and refuse to take responsibility for their own actions.
  • Passive-aggressive behaviour: They use subtle digs, sarcasm, and snide remarks to belittle and demean you.
  • Emotional abuse: They use emotional abuse tactics, such as guilt-tripping, to control and manipulate you.

 

How to cope with toxicity

Coping with a toxic family member can be very difficult, but there are strategies you can use to help manage the situation:

  • Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries and stick to them. Let them know what behaviours not acceptable, and what consequences are to follow if they continue.
  • Find support: Reach out to friends, other family members, or a professional for support. Talking to someone about your experiences can help you feel less alone and provide you with an outside perspective.
  • Practice self-care: Take care of yourself by engaging in activities that make you feel good, such as exercise, meditation or reading. Taking care of your own needs will help you feel more resilient and better able to cope with toxic behaviour.

 

How to approach and confront toxicity

This can be challenging, but it’s important to address the behaviour head-on:

  • Be clear and specific: When you approach your family member, be clear and specific about the behaviour that is causing you distress. Use “I” statements to express your feelings and avoid using language that blames or attacks.
  • Be prepared for pushback: Toxic family members are often resistant to change and may become defensive or dismissive when confronted. Be prepared for this and don’t let it prevent you from addressing the issue.
  • Get outside help: If you’re struggling to confront the behaviour on your own, consider enlisting the help of a therapist or mediator. A neutral third party can help facilitate a constructive conversation and provide support.

 

How to prevent toxic behaviour from affecting your well-being

For your mental health and overall happiness, it is crucial that you put in place strategies to protect yourself:

  • Limit contact: For example, set boundaries around how often you see or speak to them.
  • Reframe your thinking: Instead of allowing the toxic behaviour to get under your skin, focus on the positive relationships and experiences in your life.
  • Practice forgiveness: Forgiveness can be a powerful tool for releasing resentment and anger towards a toxic family member. This doesn’t mean that you condone their behaviour, but rather that you release yourself from the negative emotions that can keep you stuck.

Remember don’t hesitate to reach out for help and support.